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A new blog, on average, is published about 3-8x a month, tending to offer ideas and perspectives on psychological aspects of current events, an introduction or deepening of how Dr. Denise Renye works with people, and some practices you can do blending psychology, sexology, spirituality, embodiment and art.
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These articles are not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, medical treatment, coaching or therapy. Seeking the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding any mental health symptom or medical condition is imperative. Do not disregard professional psychological or medical advice. Do not delay in the seeking of professional advice or treatment because of something you have read here.
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Why Does Sex Sometimes Feel Better with Emotionally Intense Partners?
The key difference is that the fire comes from choice and creativity, not chaos. When passion comes from choice rather than chaos, it is sustainable and freeing. You can explore fantasies, play, and intimacy without fear or anxiety dominating the experience. Desire becomes a shared adventure instead of a reaction to unpredictability. Over time, this creates sexual experiences that are not only thrilling in the moment but also deeply satisfying and nourishing for both partners.
Healing Isn’t Linear: Embracing the Ups and Downs of Growth in Mind, Body, and Sexuality
Setbacks can also provide insight. Feeling triggered or noticing old patterns does not erase progress. Often these moments highlight areas that require further attention, reflection, or compassion. By approaching them with curiosity rather than judgment, you create space for deeper healing and a more integrated relationship with yourself, your sexuality, and your capacity for pleasure.
What It’s Like to be in a Relationship with Someone who is Anxiously Attached
Arguments may flare up around perceived disconnection or distance, even if no intentional harm was intended. For instance, “I just needed a night to myself. It wasn’t because I’m losing interest or plan to break up with you.” The partner may sometimes feel “smothered” or lose a sense of space because the anxiously attached person is requesting closeness or frequent check-ins that don’t match the partner’s cadence.
Family Romance as a Bridge Between Psychoanalysis and Gender-Affirming Care
Belonging is a fundamental human need. When someone feels unseen or misunderstood, the search for a place or a family where they truly belong can become urgent and complex. Therapy offers a space to explore these feelings, to hold the tensions between who you are and where you are, and to build a sense of belonging from the inside out. Through compassionate, affirming care, therapy can help individuals create a story of self that feels authentic and whole.
Online Sex Therapist Discusses What It’s Like to Be Anxiously Attached
The reason therapists like me talk about attachment is that these early childhood relationships prime people’s future relationships. The patterns don’t disappear simply because a person got older. That means in adulthood, the person is still anxious. In their romantic relationships, they have a frequent need for reassurance. They may want to call or text often and have trouble tolerating physical and emotional distance.
When Love Feels Lonely: Understanding and Healing Emotional Neglect in Relationships
Loneliness in a relationship doesn’t always mean love is gone—it’s often a sign that the relationship needs emotional tending and intentional care. Just as physical health requires nourishment and attention, emotional connection needs ongoing investment to thrive. With awareness, openness, and a commitment to change, couples can move from disconnection to closeness again. Your emotional needs are valid, and tending to them can transform your relationship into a place of mutual care, intimacy, and emotional safety.
Why Your Own Relationship with Sexuality Matters to Your Work with Clients
By cultivating a conscious, embodied relationship with our own sexuality, we:
Hold space for shame to surface without flinching
Support clients in reclaiming pleasure as part of their healing
Navigate conversations about intimacy, desire, and boundaries with clarity and compassion
Rethinking Attachment Styles: A Series on Relating and Being Related To
Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing a series of blog posts that look at both sides of the attachment equation, meaning what it’s like to have a particular attachment style and what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone who leans in that direction. People often shift between styles at different times in their lives, and even within different self-states or relationships. The goal is to offer a more nuanced view of attachment as something fluid and relational, while also creating room for compassion, curiosity, and growth.
Impact vs. Intent: How It Shapes Connection in Relationships
Healthy relationships thrive when both partners can hold the complexity of I didn’t mean to and it still hurt. True intimacy grows in the space where we take responsibility for our impact, even when our intentions were loving. Over time, this practice builds trust, safety, and a deeper sense of being known.
Andrea Gibson and the Power of Being Fully Alive
As a psychologist and sex therapist, I often work with people who are trying to find the language to describe the fullness of their experience around gender, sexuality, trauma, love, and loss. Andrea did what so many of us try to do. They gave voice to the unspeakable. Again and again. They helped people feel seen in the places they thought were too messy, too painful, or too complicated to bring into the light.
How to Let Your Partner Manage Their Own Feelings and Still Remain in a Loving Connection
Love does not mean merging. Love means standing side by side as two whole people, each capable of moving through our inner worlds. When you stop trying to rescue your partner from their emotions, something powerful happens. You both build trust. You both become stronger. And you both get to feel deeply seen and respected.
This is what it means to love without losing yourself.
The Long-term Consequences of a Common Form of Abuse: Sibling Abuse
Long term, the impacts of sibling abuse can include chronic low self-esteem, difficulty trusting others, struggles with intimacy, and unresolved trauma that may surface in adult relationships.
Reclaiming Your Sexual Self After Trauma
Before doing any sort of partnered activity, however, I recommend coming back into your own body. You can start immediately with an embodiment meditation. There are many kinds of embodiment meditation but often they begin with a body scan. You bring awareness to different parts of your body – your toes, your knees, your hips, your stomach – and notice sensations without judgment. You might also notice your breath – where are you breathing? Your chest? Your deep belly? Are the breaths slow and easy or fast and difficult? This is not to bring criticism or judgment, rather observation and awareness.
When the Body Remembers: Hemorrhoids, Pelvic Floor Tension, and the Root of Early Trauma
If you’ve been dealing with persistent pelvic symptoms that don’t resolve with conventional treatment, you are not alone. The body remembers what the mind does not always know how to speak. And healing does not always begin with words. Sometimes, it begins with breath, with ground, and with the slow return to a sense of safety in your own skin.
Sex Therapy as Soul Work
When we work with sexuality as an expression of soul, the goal is not to become “normal” or even “better” in the conventional sense. The goal is to become more yourself. More whole. More embodied. More present to the truth of your own experience.
Consciousness Is a Right, Not a Privilege: On Psychedelic Integration, Depth Psychotherapy, and Sex Therapy
Whether through analytic therapy, psychedelic integration, or sex therapy, I view my role as guiding people back to the sacred terrain of their own consciousness. I believe that when people are given safe, non-pathologizing space to explore who they are, they often arrive at truth, healing, and greater compassion for themselves and others.
To explore one’s own mind is not indulgent. It is revolutionary.
Staying Connected in an Age of Constant Distraction: Reclaiming Presence in Relationship
Staying connected in the digital age takes effort. It means choosing presence over performance. It means being more curious than reactive. And it means remembering that the person beside you is not just a placeholder for your attention, but someone who longs to be seen, felt, and cherished.
Men Contribute More to the Health of a Pregnancy Than We Acknowledge
Many women think their body is “broken” and are filled with shame that they cannot carry a pregnancy to term but as the research shows, sperm also has a role to play. Reproductive health is not only the responsibility of the person who becomes pregnant. Men have an important role to play. Their health and choices impact outcomes as well.Their health is equally important for the health of the pregnancy and the child. Let’s remember that pregnancy is a partnership.
Beyond the Binary: How Non-Heteronormative Sex Expands Pleasure and Connection for Everyone
When we stop assuming what sex should look like, we open space to ask deeper questions: What feels good to me? How do I want to feel in connection with you? Where in my body is pleasure waking up? This is the root of embodied erotic liberation.
7 Somatic Practices for When You’re Stressed
In times of high stress, a common coping strategy is to withdraw into the mind—to make plans, to rationalize, to ruminate. The mind will start flitting around like a manic butterfly, never quite landing but yearning to do so. The mind may also say now is the time to do more, more, more, and slowing down is not on it’s list.