Loneliness in a relationship doesn’t always mean love is gone—it’s often a sign that the relationship needs emotional tending and intentional care. Just as physical health requires nourishment and attention, emotional connection needs ongoing investment to thrive. With awareness, openness, and a commitment to change, couples can move from disconnection to closeness again. Your emotional needs are valid, and tending to them can transform your relationship into a place of mutual care, intimacy, and emotional safety.

By cultivating a conscious, embodied relationship with our own sexuality, we:

• Hold space for shame to surface without flinching

• Support clients in reclaiming pleasure as part of their healing

• Navigate conversations about intimacy, desire, and boundaries with clarity and compassion

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing a series of blog posts that look at both sides of the attachment equation, meaning what it’s like to have a particular attachment style and what it’s like to be in a relationship with someone who leans in that direction. People often shift between styles at different times in their lives, and even within different self-states or relationships. The goal is to offer a more nuanced view of attachment as something fluid and relational, while also creating room for compassion, curiosity, and growth.

Healthy relationships thrive when both partners can hold the complexity of I didn’t mean to and it still hurt. True intimacy grows in the space where we take responsibility for our impact, even when our intentions were loving. Over time, this practice builds trust, safety, and a deeper sense of being known.

As a psychologist and sex therapist, I often work with people who are trying to find the language to describe the fullness of their experience around gender, sexuality, trauma, love, and loss. Andrea did what so many of us try to do. They gave voice to the unspeakable. Again and again. They helped people feel seen in the places they thought were too messy, too painful, or too complicated to bring into the light.

Love does not mean merging. Love means standing side by side as two whole people, each capable of moving through our inner worlds. When you stop trying to rescue your partner from their emotions, something powerful happens. You both build trust. You both become stronger. And you both get to feel deeply seen and respected.

This is what it means to love without losing yourself.

Long term, the impacts of sibling abuse can include chronic low self-esteem, difficulty trusting others, struggles with intimacy, and unresolved trauma that may surface in adult relationships.

Before doing any sort of partnered activity, however, I recommend coming back into your own body. You can start immediately with an embodiment meditation. There are many kinds of embodiment meditation but often they begin with a body scan. You bring awareness to different parts of your body – your toes, your knees, your hips, your stomach – and notice sensations without judgment. You might also notice your breath – where are you breathing? Your chest? Your deep belly? Are the breaths slow and easy or fast and difficult? This is not to bring criticism or judgment, rather observation and awareness.

If you’ve been dealing with persistent pelvic symptoms that don’t resolve with conventional treatment, you are not alone. The body remembers what the mind does not always know how to speak. And healing does not always begin with words. Sometimes, it begins with breath, with ground, and with the slow return to a sense of safety in your own skin.

When we work with sexuality as an expression of soul, the goal is not to become “normal” or even “better” in the conventional sense. The goal is to become more yourself. More whole. More embodied. More present to the truth of your own experience.

Whether through analytic therapy, psychedelic integration, or sex therapy, I view my role as guiding people back to the sacred terrain of their own consciousness. I believe that when people are given safe, non-pathologizing space to explore who they are, they often arrive at truth, healing, and greater compassion for themselves and others.

To explore one’s own mind is not indulgent. It is revolutionary.

Staying connected in the digital age takes effort. It means choosing presence over performance. It means being more curious than reactive. And it means remembering that the person beside you is not just a placeholder for your attention, but someone who longs to be seen, felt, and cherished.

Many women think their body is “broken” and are filled with shame that they cannot carry a pregnancy to term but as the research shows, sperm also has a role to play. Reproductive health is not only the responsibility of the person who becomes pregnant. Men have an important role to play. Their health and choices impact outcomes as well.Their health is equally important for the health of the pregnancy and the child. Let’s remember that pregnancy is a partnership.

When we stop assuming what sex should look like, we open space to ask deeper questions: What feels good to me? How do I want to feel in connection with you? Where in my body is pleasure waking up? This is the root of embodied erotic liberation.

In times of high stress, a common coping strategy is to withdraw into the mind—to make plans, to rationalize, to ruminate. The mind will start flitting around like a manic butterfly, never quite landing but yearning to do so. The mind may also say now is the time to do more, more, more, and slowing down is not on it’s list.

Letting go, in this context, is not abandonment. It is presence without possession. It is deep care without control. It is choosing to attune, again and again, even when the past wants to repeat itself.

To parent is to love with open hands.
To support parents is to honor the sacred labor of that love.
And to reflect on these early years—from my work in Early Intervention to my current practice—is to be reminded that healing begins not only in adulthood, but in infancy.

The best leaders are not those who have all the answers. They are those who have the inner capacity to stay present, curious, and responsive in a complex world.

Psychedelics may offer a breakthrough—but integration is what builds capacity, embodiment, and sustainability.

I support individuals—both in therapy and in private coaching containers—who are trying to make sense of what happened in their psychedelic journeys. Whether someone touched God, relived trauma, dissolved into light, or encountered the shadow of their unconscious, these experiences require reverence and a thoughtful return to embodied life.

Instead of offering advice, offer love. Listen without fixing. Be a witness without judgment. Remind the immigrants in your life, “You are loved no matter where you are, no matter what you choose.” Immigration pain is real but you can make it less so by being a safe harbor for the immigrants in your life

Along those lines, he regularly uses culture and religion to shame people and instill fear in the hearts and minds of White Americans. He instituted a travel ban from several Arabic countries to protect Americans from “terrorists.” He also built a wall between Mexico and the U.S. to keep out Mexican “rapists.” He fans the flames of prejudice and racism to spur fear of Black and Brown folx.