When you are missing connection with a piece of 'you' it can feel like you're not fully living.

Keep in mind that just as holidays can be challenging, you can also exit the holiday season with an increased sense of emotional resilience and stronger boundaries. You can feel proud of yourself for making it through and even having a fun time with what you do choose to do with your time. The way to create that is by maintaining your self-care practice, paying attention to yourself, and acting in ways that are in integrity with your personal values and long-term goals.

Disorganized attachment develops as a protective response to early experiences where love and danger were closely connected. If you recognize yourself in these dynamics, you are not alone. Healing often involves slow and steady intimacy rather than sudden closeness and “needing to profess your love or you’ll burst” moments, nervous system regulation through somatic practices and embodiment work, therapeutic relationships that offer consistency and repair, learning to tolerate being seen without collapsing into shame, and building internal capacity one small step at a time. With support, the body can learn that closeness does not need to signal danger. Love can arrive through steadiness and mutual presence rather than through distance, chaos, or longing.

When you turn toward your body, when you feed it with awareness and attunement, you begin to remother the self. You become the mother your inner child needed. And in doing so, you begin to heal the mother-wound, not by seeking external perfection or demanding a flawless mother figure, but by reclaiming the mother-principle within: care, presence, nourishment, tenderness. As Marion Woodman invites: care for your body; treat it as the vessel through which your Self may be born.