Posts tagged feelings
Practice Attunement to Feel Seen and Nurtured in Your Relationships?
Practice Attunement to Feel Seen and Nurtured in Your Relationships?

ATTUNEMENT: WHAT IS IT? WHY IS IT IMPORTANT?

There’s a very important factor that determines whether one or both parties in a relationship feel seen and nurtured. It applies to relationships across the board, from romantic to platonic, therapeutic to familial. And without it, miscommunication, fights, and hurt feelings are common. That factor is attunement. I’ll give the clinical definition first because it’s a word we often use in the field of psychotherapy and so you have a full picture of what attunement is and then I’ll describe attunement in layperson’s terms.

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Denise Renyerelationship, feelings, seen, nurtured, practice attunement
How to Cope with Anxiety If You Can’t Go to Therapy
How to Cope with Anxiety If You Can’t Go to Therapy

I spoke with a friend of a friend recently who said he copes with anxiety solely through medication because that’s all he’s been exposed to. It got me thinking about how some people don’t know what else to try for anxiety other than pharmacological interventions because they may not have considered therapy as an option. And even many people who have considered therapy may not be able to afford it. Learning how to cope with anxiety in healthy ways can make such a difference.

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Denise Renyecope, anxiety, therapy, feelings
The Magic of Anger
The Magic of Anger

In many of my sessions with patients lately, the topic of anger has been coming up. This feeling is often perceived as a dangerous or “bad” emotion that can harm you and others. Thus, many people are scared of anger and are told to do whatever they can to squash it, to keep it hidden. I see this particularly in women (and folx who fall closer to feminine on the gender expression continuum) because we are instead encouraged to people-please and not rock any boats with anger. We’re encouraged to be “nice,” and anger isn’t a “nice” emotion. Men (and folx who fall closer to masculine on the gender expression continuum) experience the opposite – they are socialized to feel and express anger, but not sadness. (Think of common, old school sayings like “Boys don’t cry” or “Don’t be a sissy.”)

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Denise Renyemagic, anger, relationships, feelings, emotions