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A new blog, on average, is published about 3-8x a month, tending to offer ideas and perspectives on psychological aspects of current events, an introduction or deepening of how Dr. Denise Renye works with people, and some practices you can do blending psychology, sexology, spirituality, embodiment and art.
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The Hidden Work Behind the Experience of Love
In a sense, depth work is the slow art of clearing the mind and heart, of excavating the unconscious to create fertile ground for connection. When this work is done, the moments of beauty, like hearing someone recognize the love in their life, shine all the brighter.
Attachment vs. Love: Beyond the Honeymoon Phase
Attachment might make us cling, chase, or fear loss, but love requires conscious engagement. It’s a daily decision to show up, to care, and to be patient with both ourselves and our partner. The honeymoon phase is just the beginning as the real relationship starts when we choose to stay after the infatuation fades and navigate life’s complexities together.
Ultimately, couples can only truly know each other when they move past the initial intensity, confront emotional patterns, and build connection that is grounded in awareness, empathy, and resilience.
Meaningful Relationships in Hook Up Culture
Finding a meaningful relationship in hookup culture can be challenging, but it's not impossible. By being clear about what you want, avoiding casual hookups, taking things slow, looking for like-minded individuals, being patient, open, and honest, and putting yourself out there, you can increase your chances of finding a meaningful relationship.
How to Work with Limerence and Not Against It
Psychologist Dorothy Tennov first described the term in 1979 in her book Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love. Limerence is less grounded than love because it involves a heck of a lot of projection and fantasy. Instead of seeing the other person for who they are, flaws and all, someone in the throes of limerence will ignore red flags because “love conquers all.” They may imagine activities and outings with the other person, how they’ll dress, what they’ll say because at this point, the other person is still a mystery.
No, Obsession is Not 'Romantic'
This sort of behavior is not about relating directly to the crush and instead about getting a dopamine hit from the fantasy. The crush becomes an object for the person to project their hopes and dreams on without doing the hard work of actually engaging.
3 Ways to Determine if You’re a Match
When entering into a romantic, sexual, or emotional partnership, it’s important to match maturity levels. Being a match involves more than, “I like dogs, you like dogs; we’re good!” Three very basic areas to determine whether you’re a match involve the following: