Posts tagged parenting
When you Realize You Aren’t a Good Inner Loving Parent

As you continue the journey of being an inner loving parent, realize that you will make mistakes and that’s OK. The important thing is to apologize to your inner kids and then do things differently. Show them/yourself that you want to do better and then do it. Remember, it’s never too late to be the parent you always wanted.

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The Hidden form of Incest: Enmeshment

Some folx grew up too soon and were forced to be adults before they were ready. This happens for a variety of reasons and one of those reasons is covert incest, also known as enmeshment. Enmeshment occurs when a parent or caregiver looks to their child for emotional support and psychological validation. In other words, there aren’t strong boundaries within the family. And those strong boundaries are necessary for the safety of the child. They are also necessary for the safety of the parent’s psyche but the child’s psyche is really negatively affected.

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Watching Your Parents Grandparent

For someone in that situation, it may feel confusing or even like gaslighting. Generally, people want healthy, functional, emotionally regulated parents. There’s grief when that’s not present and why focusing on reparenting yourself can be so healing. To see the sort of parenting you wish you could have received given to your kids, but not to you, can bring up numerous feelings.

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